In five years will it still matter?? I read that statement and it made me think. When something happens in your life generally a bad thing it seems monumental. It feels like you can barely overcome and you think it will never get better. I like many other people have gone through many trials and tribulations in my life and most of the time it seemed like life and death was in the balance. I was dating a man and thinking were we going to get married and someone said the best way to know is to see you with him in five years and then ten years and if it still seems happy go for it if not then run for the hills! Life is a very long road with many episodes sort of like a sitcom where there is a beginning and an end to each one. Sometimes it is a mini series and sometimes a half hour show. I think the answer could be in just not taking life too seriously …live in the moment and laugh………………a lot!!! Life must be lived as play. Plato

Does the mind play tricks on you or do you play tricks on the mind?? You have always heard this expression where your mind is playing tricks on you and it makes you think you see something but it is not what you think it is therefore your mind is playing with you. Maybe it is the other way around sometimes we play tricks with ourselves believing or trying to believe we want something or have it but we do not. Lets take love for instance….we meet someone and they are exactly who we are looking for…they look the way we want them to ….they have the temperament we want so we become a couple only then later to find out they are not at all who we thought they were!!!! Is it them??? Or is our mind playing tricks on us?? The job we are applying for is the one we have been looking for all our life…we take it and after 3 months we are putting our resume out there!! I think sometimes we want something so bad we trick ourselves into believing we are getting it and then the reality sets in and we realize it was an illusion. So I think we need to dip into the reality bag and pull out the flashlight and shine it on the person or situation and see what is really there….. Humankind cannot bear very much reality. T. S. Eliot

Life is………..hard………..easy………..fun…….I have been thinking lately a lot about mortality as I get older and life seems long as you are growing up but then all of sudden as you get older it seems short. Life is a game of chance where you win or lose and sometimes the prizes are just what you needed! I work with people who are nearing the end of their lives and all they want to do is to accomplish their last hurrah. It seems to me you can throw the dice in the air or throw your hat in the ring but what ever you do you need to play the game with a smile and always look ahead to what is right around the corner. All God does is watch us and kill us when we get boring. We must never, ever be boring.” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters

Is our destiny written in stone? Do we change it with every movement we make with every person we meet? If we were to find out that something was going to happen could we change it?? There were times especially in my youth where I felt my destiny was all set no matter what I did and my life would run its course .As I get older and start to see “life” I begin to believe we always have a chance to change our outcome. It could be the person you meet or the place you find but all of it can change what awaits us….. It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves. William Shakespeare